Can't Lose Weight? It's Time to Stop Feeding Your Demons

Can't Lose Weight? It's Time to Stop Feeding Your Demons
Copyright (c) 2006 Debbie Fontana

When you can't lose weight, the answer may be simple. Or it
may be hard.

Maybe you really are just eating a little too much. Simple.
Cut back.

Maybe you just turned 40 and as much as you hate to admit
it, you'll never have the body you had 20 years ago. Hard
to admit, but with the right diet, you can still have a
slimmer figure.

But what if you've had a long -- maybe even a lifelong --
battle with weight. And by that, I mean a serious weight
problem, not just five pounds or so.

I'm not a doctor, I'm not a psychologist, I'm not a
psychiatrist. And I'm not giving medical advice.

But I have observed enough people over the years to form
this opinion.

For people with lifelong weight loss problems, the right
diet can help. But it's usually not about dieting. Because
it's not about the food.

Think about it.

Are you lonely, angry, depressed? Do you feel guilty,
rejected, inferior? Or even unworthy of love or success?

Do you seek comfort in food because people let you down? Or
maybe you feel like you've let yourself down?

Have you tried every diet there is and nothing seems to
work? Or at least not for long?

Then consider this. When you dive into that box of
chocolates, is it food or an escape?

Maybe there's a sexual assault in your past. Maybe kids
teased you mercilessly when you were young. Maybe family
members always made you feel inferior. Maybe an ex-spouse
-- or a current spouse -- made you feel unwanted and
unloved.

You didn't fight back. Maybe you couldn't -- literally,
couldn't.

So you turned to food. For comfort. For escape. For an
excuse to drive people away.

Because when you're fat, it's okay to be shy. To be
different. To be alone.

It still hurts. But at least, you have an excuse to hide.

You say you want to lose weight, you go on diet after diet,
but when things get tough...

... you seek refuge in food. And it starts all over again.

So ask yourself this.

If you could go back to the one incident or the series of
events or the period of time that led to your weight
problem, would you choose to relive it all again just as it
happened?

Or if you had the chance, would you change it?

Because every time you escape with food, you make the
choice to feed your demons.

To relive whatever it is that hurts you.

To give people who bullied or hurt you the power to do it
all over again. And again. And again.

So you have a choice to make. To relive or to live.

It's that simple. And that hard.

If you can't do it alone, seek out a trusted friend. Or
better yet, a trained professional.

But ultimately, the choice is yours. Choose to let go.

Choose to live.

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Debbie Fontana is a full-time author and business owner who
writes about health, weight loss, looking great, and
feeling fantastic. She created the delicious I Love to
Cheat lifestyle diet and the companion I Love to Cheat
Rewards Newsletter. She encourages her subscribers to
submit their weight loss problems, questions, and concerns.
Visit her at http://www.ILoveToCheatDiet.com

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